Culture Notes 2020

It’s Not Your Fault — Korean Culture Notes

12 timestamped notes explaining the Korean cultural context in this episode — customs, idioms, food, honorifics, and history, at the moment each appears on screen. These notes discuss events across the whole episode. To see them revealed scene-by-scene as you watch, use the episode page to find an airing.

# 내일모레 예정일 — Due date expression

0:44

은숙 says the baby is due '내일모레' (naeil-more), literally 'the day after tomorrow,' used loosely to mean 'any day now.' In Korean conversation it signals something is so imminent it would be reckless to ignore it — making 유리's casual attitude about going out all the more alarming to her family.

# 개꿈 — Meaningless dream

1:33

은숙 dismisses 무풍's uneasy dream as a '개꿈' (gae-kkum), literally a 'dog dream.' The phrase means a random, worthless dream with no prophetic meaning — the opposite of the significant dreams Koreans often watch carefully around births or deaths. The irony here is heavy: the phone call that changes everything comes moments later.

# 자책 — Self-blame in Korean grief

2:39

The bereaved woman can't stop replaying the small moments she could have acted differently — a pattern Koreans call 자책 (ja-chaek), self-reproach or self-blame. Korean grief culture often frames loss as something the living should have prevented, making 자책 a nearly universal part of mourning here. The episode's title, '네 탓이 아니야' (It's Not Your Fault), speaks directly to this.

# 필승네 — Neighbourhood ghost passing on

17:01

The women speak about '필승네' — referred to as a neighbour's ghost who protected 서우 — moving on after 20 years. In Korean folk belief, a spirit who dies with unresolved earthly attachments (한, han) lingers near the living until those ties are settled. Being 'taken up' suddenly, without a proper farewell, is considered especially sad because the spirit had no chance to complete its passing.

# 플렉스 — Korean slang for splurging

18:40

현정 tells 유리 she 'plexed' (플렉스, peullekseu) — a term borrowed from hip-hop slang meaning to show off by spending freely. It became huge in Korean youth culture around 2019 and is still widely used. Here 현정 uses it playfully to describe renting or borrowing something fun, signalling she went all-out to cheer 유리 up.

# 연안 차씨 — Korean clan name tablet

29:40

The framed text '연안 차씨' (Yeonan Cha-ssi) identifies the family's ancestral clan. Korean family names are tied to a specific place of origin called a 본관 (bon-gwan); 유리's surname 차 traces to Yeonan. Seeing this plaque makes the scene a quiet reminder that she belongs to this lineage — and that her death cut that thread.

# 자살 아닌 거 — Clearing a suicide verdict

38:22 Self-harm

상봉's entire request hinges on having his death officially understood as accidental rather than suicide (자살, ja-sal). In Korea, a suicide ruling carries lasting stigma for the family — it can affect insurance, memorial rites, and how neighbours speak of the deceased. 상봉 wants 근상, who witnessed the circumstances, to tell his mother the truth so she isn't left with that grief.

This note discusses suicide or self-injury. If you need someone to talk to: in Korea call 109, in the US call or text 988, or find a helpline in your country.

# 노출 요법 — Exposure therapy for trauma

45:29

The doctors describe 강화's treatment plan as 노출 요법 (no-chul yo-beop), exposure therapy, where a patient is gradually reintroduced to the environment that triggered their trauma. For 강화, that means re-entering the operating room where he lost 유리. The scene shows how this approach works in practice: short stays that build tolerance over time.

# 횡단보도 — The crosswalk and bodily memory

47:17

유리 notices her mother's heartbeat quickens every time she approaches a 횡단보도 (hoeng-dan-bo-do), pedestrian crosswalk — because that is where 유리 was fatally struck five years ago. 은숙 says her body memorised the fear even when her mind wasn't deliberately thinking about it. This moment illustrates what Koreans call '몸이 기억한다,' the body remembers.

# VIP 우선 수술 — Priority surgery for wealthy patients

56:13

장 교수 shouts that the other patient is a VIP and must be prioritised — an open reference to a real and controversial practice in some Korean private hospitals where paying or influential patients jump the treatment queue. 강화's later decision to circulate a petition against this among his colleagues is treated as genuinely courageous, because speaking out can end a doctor's career at such an institution.

# 나도 살고 싶다 — 'I want to live too'

66:13

유리 quietly says '나도 살고 싶다' — 'I want to live too.' 현정 later explains to 근상 that this phrase is more desperate than saying you want to die, because it comes from someone who knows she cannot. In Korean emotional expression, stating a desire you know is impossible carries the full weight of that impossibility; it is grief and longing compressed into a single sentence.

# 치료 순서 — Medical triage ethics

70:15

강화argues that 치료 순서 (chi-ryo sun-seo), the order of treatment, must follow medical urgency, not a patient's wealth or status. His willingness to collect colleagues' signatures and submit a formal complaint to the hospital is notable: in Korea's hierarchical hospital culture, a junior doctor openly challenging an established VIP policy risks being quietly sidelined. The family's proud reaction signals they understand exactly what he is risking.

More for this episode